THANKS, KR for this video. It's an important part of OUR story as AA women. So I'm including it as a document.
As much as SOME folks seem to hate the idea of white men dating, openly loving and MARRYING black women these days, the fact is that many wm, in general, have always been attracted to and had sexual relations with black women in the USA. This means that bw have always been appealing, desirable women to a certain percentage of white men. The fact is that it's obvious that sexual desire is a MUCH stronger drive than racial hatred. When heterosexual males are placed in proximity with females, no amount of legislation, warfare, implanted hatred, politics, or even the threat of death is going to succeed for long in keeping the males away from the females. This is why I KNOW that bm are not going to "come back home" and wm are not going to ever ignore the desirability of bw.
The sexual history of bw-wm sexual relations, though coerced by wm in MOST cases, nonetheless still occurred. Considering that wm did NOT marry bw in those days due to various highly documented reasons, it does make me wonder why some black (mainly AA) folks have such a huge problem with white men openly loving, marrying, and raising families with bw these days.
An aside about wm and bw marrying:---No matter how it's sliced, the typical wm I've encountered, heard about, read about--of whatever age--is MUCH more marriage-oriented than his AA male counterpart. Therefore, if an AA woman VETS a typical Quality wm properly and enters a serious relationship with him, it's simply a matter of a higher probability that the relationship will result in marriage. I'm sure we've all heard of AA women who've lived with AA males for years and done all the things for him that a wife could possibly do, yet these males still refuse to marry these women! Many AAs would obviously prefer for an AA woman to forgo marriage with a loving and lovable Quality wm and simply "lay up" with a typical AA man or be his babymama. Many/most AA women desire MARRIAGE. The record clearly shows that many AA males are the ones who keep down the rates of AA marriage because they are eager to sex AA women, will impregnate them but refuse to marry their babymamas--which is the EXACT practice of white men during slavery and Jim Crow. Yet many among AAs claim to hate wm for doing this, will PRESSURE (directly and indirectly) bw to ONLY mate with a "good" bm (who is about as available as hen's teeth) but will give these DBR-AA males a pass for doing what these racist wm did, and will instead blame 'babymama-ism" all on the bw! That to me, is about as twisted as people can get in their thinking. This is why I urge AA women to flee the bc--totally and completely.
So we can expect lots more of the same pandemic of social chaos in the so-called "black community" UNTIL large numbers of AA women can buy a clue and EITHER mate out, not mate at all, or not have children at all with AA men from "typical" AA dysfunctional backgrounds (no father in home, no positive male role model, etc.)--because the probability of a typical bw MARRYING (not just sexing) one of these "good" bm--that black women have been indoctrinated to mate with despite his dysfunctionalism--is extremely low.
There are SOME "AA" men who are NOT from a ***typical*** AA male background, though they identify as AAs or are identified as such (Pres. Obama, black men who have been raised in homes where the father/mother was a foreign national and was present in the boy's life, AA males who reject the AA male script or were raised apart from it, etc.) who I consider to be "exceptions" to the usual AA male. Keep in mind that I look at things from the bw's point of view, however some of the AA males in this category are strong marriage material. It goes without saying that these males represent a small minority of AA males. They are EXCEPTIONS and I'll focus on them more, in the future. These males can usually be clearly identified after mingling with them for a brief time or sometimes, even from a short conversation where you can see that what they say matches what they do or have done. I've been calling this category of AA males--AA Evolved Males: AAEM.
The probability of the 'typical' AA male father FULLY remaining in the lives of these children--emotionally and financially is low. Notice I didn't say it never happens; I said the probability is LOW. We have seen this time and time again--no matter what type/race/group of woman these males have as mates. Just look the stats. AA males continue to deny, deny, and deny their horrible track record on providing for and protecting AA women and children by various groups of women and will actually pounce on anyone (Bill Cosby, President Obama, etc) who sheds light on their record. They continue to lie about it and will point the finger at everyone else but themselves--as a group as being responsible. EXPECT this to continue since people continue to defend them and excuse this behavior.
Anwyay, this video and other accounts are why I can't understand that so many AA women THESE DAYS can't believe that wm are attracted to bw. LOL!! This is why I know that as more AA women give wm the "green light," more of them will be stepping up to date, love and MARRY bw--BECAUSE this attraction of wm to bw is nothing new! However, it seems to me that lots of AA women have caught a serious case of amnesia about this aspect of American history. Or is it that these women don't know their history?
I grew up down south and maybe this is why I've never doubted that a certain percentage of wm were/are attracted to me. Also, when you listen to some of the accounts of older relatives down south and such, sex between wm and bw was just a custom down there and you can clearly see the offspring of those sexual encounters. The number of white-skinned black folks in my environment when I was growing up also made this clear to me. Many of these folks could have passed for white, and obviously some did. The DNA record also shows that many whites these days have so-called "black" blood.
Years ago, when I told my southern bm cousin (an older man in his 50s) that I was going to marry Darren, he said: "Well, it's about time that white men started marrying black women; they've been sleeping with y'all long enough!"
So, folks do need to ponder this one. Bw-wm relationships are NOT actually interracial at all as you pointed out. Aside from the fact that all humans came from the same ancestor, most AAs can look at their family members and see right away that we are not "full-blooded" Africans (whatever that means). Most Africans that I encountered in Africa and here looked at me and right away knew I wasn't a "full-blooded" African. They considered me "mixed," which initially surprised me since "mixed" in this country means that you're "biracial." When I pointed this out to Africans, they couldn't understand why I was splitting hairs. LOL!! They can't understand why so many AAs get into debates about whether we're 50% mixed with whites and/or Indians vs 33% vs 11% or 2%. They absolutely can't understand that and neither can many AAs deal with their need to split hairs about their undeniable bloodline.
As long as no one tries to trumpet the superiority of one bloodline over the other, I totally support anyone acknowledging ALL of their ancestry. There is no superior bloodline; there are NO superior GROUPS of people; there are simply large groups of people who have adopted ways that have enabled them to survive and thrive better or compete for vital resources better than others. We can ALL do this, as I constantly point out and urge bw to do.
Another thing is that we all know that if any AA person points out that they're mixed with white or even Indian, other AAs almost always ridicule them and accuse them of denying their African heritage. I had a girlfriend once who said she wanted to know more about her Scottish ancestry and black folks called her all kinds of foul names. SMH She didn't let them stop her though.
Of course, many continental Africans think we're insane about denying our white, Indian, and Asian heritage, especially when it's so apparent. LOL! This denial is a type of mental issue that many AAs have not dealt with successfully because many AAs are in denial about it and are therefore still unable to even talk about it rationally OR are prevented from talking about it openly by other AAs who can't talk about it themselves. I think that denial of any portion of heritage indicates something profoundly sad in that person's soul--a major wound. AAs need to just deal with this once and for all. But we know that many AAs are not able to talk openly about LOTS of internal issues. They magically think these issues will just go away or that whites will deal with these issues, or now they're pinning their hopes on President Obama.
However, I am not a magical thinker. I know that I, as an individual endowed by my Creator with free will AND much freedom (these days), am primarily responsible for resolving my issues. I can talk about any issue that I may have or even think I have because I want to resolve it and I know that refusing to talk about it--and deal with it--is harming me and most likely my children too.
Anyway, when I lived in Nigeria, the typical Nigerian assumed from my appearance that I was a Fulani and sometimes referred to me as the "Fulani" woman. Here's something I pulled from a site about the Fulani:
The origins of the Fulani people are highly disputed, some believe that they are of North African or Arabic origin, characterized by the lighter skin and straighter hair. Some Africans even refer to them as "white people". However, recent studies show that they descend from nomads from both North Africa and sub-Saharan Africa. The Fulani were the first group of people in West Africa to convert to Islam through jihads, or holy wars, and were able to take over much of West Africa and establish themselves not only as a religious group but also as a political and economical force.
My maternal grandmother is from SC and she was a very light-skinned woman with freckles and light eyes. I carry some of her skin shade, especially in the winter time--though I'm not nearly as light as she was. Whereas I've always known my family tree on my father's side for several generations back, I'm actually now engaged in finding my mother's family tree in SC, so I'll be digging through the records this year. This is another reason why I'm scaling down on my time on the site here.
Also, KR, thanks for this second video link re AA mixture with Native Americans:
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