Two Years After Sean Taylor's Death, His Mother Faces a Wall of Hardship
Donna Junor fears she will lose her home.
By Amy Shipley
Washington Post Staff Writer
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
HOMESTEAD, Fla. -- Donna Junor sported a flowing print dress, bejeweled flip-flops and manicured orange nails when she answered the door last week at the three-bedroom townhouse she fears she will lose to foreclosure.
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Two Years After Sean Taylor's Death, His Mother Faces a Wall of Hardship
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Her sporty but aging Mercedes-Benz, the one with the "Sean 21" tag, was parked just outside the door. The living room featured plush red furniture and a brightly colored area rug. In the dining room, just below the airbrushed portrait of her son -- the late Washington Redskins safety Sean Taylor -- sat a neatly set dining table with cloth napkins.
When she could afford it, Junor, 49, lived a nice, comfortable life. Her son made sure of that, handing out massive checks, even gift bags filled with tens of thousands of dollars, to family members. Now, those days are long gone.
When Taylor died without a will on Nov. 27, 2007, the bulk of his $5.8 million estate went to his daughter, Jackie Taylor, now 3, who lives with her mother, Taylor's high school sweetheart, Jackie Garcia, in Coral Gables, Fla. Taylor's mother did not get a penny. Nor did his grandmother, great-grandmother, two of his half-siblings or any of the cousins or relatives who had grown accustomed to his largesse. . . .
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Thank you PVW for sending me this link. I don't usually write about stories in the news of this type because there are so many of them. However, I decided to tackle this one because of the connection between AA women's resources (time, energy, support, etc.) that they give to AA men (sons, lovers, brothers, neighbors, etc.) and others, and the way so many AA women end up EMPTYHANDED. The mother in this case is a typical AA woman from a certain segment of AAs. She is not typical of ALL AA women, but she definitely represents a certain segment--the BLING segment--and the writer of the article certainly brought that into full focus.
This is a prime example of the fact that without the RUCOSS (reasonably uplifting culture of some sort), African Americans will continue to sink. I'm just documenting this sink--for the history books, from the perspective of one AA woman. ME.
These days, It's not about poverty AT ALL and racism only causes minimal problems. These days, it's about the lack of a RUCOSS and the commonsense surviving & thriving mindset that goes along with it. That's why I continue to beat that drum.
We will see from now on how non-bw will position themselves to be grabbed by any AA man who gets any money, influence, power, etc. and I don't blame those women AT ALL because as my grandmother used to say: "A fool and his money will soon be parted." LOL! Some bw will read this article and be angry at the Hispanic woman who got most of his assets, but let's face it y'all--if she hadn't been Hispanic, she would have been another woman who looked a lot like her. We all know the type that so many AA men crave. These women can't help the way they look and they can't help that these bm crave them. DO NOT BE ANGRY AT THE OTHER WOMAN!
Another way of looking at this situation is that these non-bw are dealing with the bm's boatloads of ISSUES and for that, they need to be paid. From reading about his background: 'handing out bags of money' spells insecurity, impulsivity, no money sense, poor judgment, lack of common sense, and a bunch of other issues that would have tripped him up and slammed him and any woman with him sooner, rather than later. His need to "show off" brought on his early death. I know I'd have to be paid WELL to deal with his issues because I would know that the bottom is going to drop out, like real fast.
These males are carrying their ISSUES to these other women. These males don't drop their issues outside the door. So do you really want a man like this to "stay at home?" Think about it. Yeah, he had money, but money doesn't compensate you when you're dealing with an insecure, impulse-ridden man who has poor judgment, no money sense, and lacks common sense. Yeah, he may have had good judgment on the football field, but does that make him a quality man? Just because a man has money does NOT mean he's a Quality man. Let me repeat: MONEY ALONE does not = Quality.
Also, in my view, there's absolutely nothing stopping many, many AA/bw from positioning themselves to mingle with and marry men of quality, the type who will use his emotional, mental, intellectual and financial resources to be good providers and protectors--except for the AA woman's own self-limiting mindset in many cases. Way too many AA bw have been dumbed-down to the max by other self-limiting, hateful AAs. SOME bw (who could easily marry out) hunt and peck for things that she doesn't like about non-bm while AA/bm hunt and peck for all of the things they DO like about non-bw. Way too many AA/bw STILL haven't caught a clue. By the time some of them DO catch the clue, LOTS of opportunities to mate with quality men are gone. I believe, however, that MOST people can change their thoughts, IF they really want to do so. And when they change their thoughts, they change your behavior. Yes, it's hard, but they can do it and they should work 24-7 to do so because the alternative is to suffer unnecessarily and to pass on this suffering for generations.
Remember that the ONLY person you can actually change is YOU.
The BIG lesson to be learned from this is that when a bw helps an AA black male these days in any kind of way, she is in all probability subsidizing the life of a non-bw. At least in this case, some of his relatives got "some of his assets." It's unfortunate what's happening to his mother, but why didn't she see this coming?
Why are so many AA women perpetually surprised, caught off guard, and left emptyhanded?
If you are an AA woman who has a son who is an NFL player or in any professional sport and he's making some sizable bucks or even if he's even looks like he's going to move on up to the big bucks league in ANY profession or in ANY way, you had better get a lawyer and secure your rights to some of his assets NOW. It's about RECIPROCITY. YOU gave to him when he was a helpless, defenseless infant. He's supposed to give to you. You make sure YOU are his beneficiary (or something similar) to a portion of his assets TOO. Make sure it is in writing.
And if my wealthy son refused to do what he could to secure my financial future (if I were in need), he would never eat at my table again or even set foot in my house again. It's about RECIPROCITY! Of course, he has a right and a responsibility to have his family and secure them financially, and I would expect him to do that, BUT he had better also be fair to me because I'm the one who carried him, fed him, wiped his butt, and protected him.
We constantly read about all of the rich AA folks who end up broke--with their money in other folks' bank accounts. I'm sure somebody out there is getting a big laugh about this. Even the article highlights all of the stupidity in this situation.
LESSON: Bw--IF you don't know how to handle your business in any area of your life, HIRE an advisor!
And STOP helping and defending these males who you KNOW are going to run as fast as they can to give--what you've helped them to get away--to women who don't look like you or your daughters.
And if you're one of these bw who's just going to scorch the earth to be there to help and defend these white/light-skin craving skin shade racist black male Negroes, then STOP acting surprised when the light/white skinned woman ends up with the money and you end up emptyhanded with your face plastered in the newspaper. Come on! Enough already!!!!
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